Thursday, December 27, 2012

"Be beautifully YOU. Everyone else is already taken."

"Be beautifully YOU. Everyone else is already taken."

The above line is a little saying that I have been telling friends & family for years. I am a believer that we are all beautifully & uniquely made.  

Sometimes in life we worry more about what others think about us than what we think of our own reflection in the mirror. We act or say things that we think others want rather than what we do. Sometimes at the pressure of others or at other times with just pressure we put on ourselves. I know for me, I really struggled with being a people pleaser saying 'Yes' to really anything that sounded good. I would run myself down and then realized that if I didn't take care of myself then I really couldn't take care of other or responsibilities that I agreed to. It was very freeing to finally get to the point in my life where I could simply say 'No' to request and not feel bad about it. I looked at it as giving others the opportunity to step up along with then allowing myself to really be able to apply myself to the things that I have chosen to pursue. 

My final challenge: 

Pursue what the desire of your heart are!

You will feel & become more alive than ever. It won't all be smooth, but it will be satisfying.  

Monday, November 5, 2012

Gratitude Challenge

Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

This Sunday at church we were all challenged for the next 30 days to write down 5 things we are grateful for daily, with the catch that we can't us the same thing twice. Me, being the math nerd that I am did some quick mental math and realized that I will have to come up with only 150 things that I'm grateful for. This seems way more manageable to me than I first thought. I mean, if I can't come up with 150 things that I'm grateful for then I must be living my life with blinders on. I feel truly blessed in life, no matter what my circumstances are once I look at the big picture. 
This is going to be a fun journey and exercise for me and if you're up for the challenge I encourage you to join in. Just think about it; if we focus on things that we are grateful for then that will raise our spirits and we can't help but life a fuller & more joy-filled life.
Here are my 5 for day 1 of this exercise:
1) I am grateful for my wonderful family 2) I am grateful for my amazing friends 3) I am grateful that I live in a free country 4) I am grateful that I have been saved through grace 5) I am grateful for having clean water

Wednesday, October 3, 2012


"We cannot seek achievement for ourselves and forget about progress and prosperity for our community... Our ambitions must be broad enough to include the aspirations and needs of others, for their sakes and for our own." ~Cesar Chavez 

These last few weeks I have been reminded a a few things that I feel are huge in living a full life that stays healthy. First, I am blessed with a truly amazing family that is big, loud and always around. We are a little loco at times and that's what makes it even sweeter. I know some people aren't very connected with family and my heart goes out to them. I know over the years many of my family has been that one to welcome in others that didn't have a family and they have become part of ours. It's truly special. 

I'm also blessed with a great group of friends. We have had soo many shared experiences throughout life that the bonds have just grown stronger over the years. I truly believe that my friends are an extension of my family and really try to treat that as such; though that means they'll see the best and worst in me as I feel most comfortable with being exposed around them. 

A group of us guys have restarted a tradition of bi-weekly breakfast again after way too long off from doing it to reconnect again and be invested on each others lives. It's been such a blessing to have this tradition come back and strengthen the friendships again. We've even begun planning monthly get togethers so the families can all be together as well. As we've all gotten older over the years our lives have changes and families expanded so it'll be amazing to have us all back together again in real community.

It's very sweet to be able to invest in the lives of others (it kind of works like a reverse blessing most of the time) and to have that kindness returned. I guess my call from all of this is to encourage everyone to strive to be intentional in your relationships, new or old. If we believe they are worth having then lets invest in them as if we really believe so.

As always....All the BEST!


Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Connecting the Disconnect

So as I was relaxing this weekend camping with friends and hanging out with family I was reminded of how much I truly enjoy the little things in life. The fact for me is that I believe the little things are much larger in true significance. As I thought about this more I was reminded of a quote that was sent to me a long time ago. I found it on-line & have pasted it below.

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints.
• We spend more, but have less.
• We buy more, but enjoy less.
• We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.
• We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
• We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
• We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
• We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
• We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life.
• We’ve added years to life not life to years.
• We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.
• We conquered outer space but not inner space.
• We’ve done larger things, but not better things.
• We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.
• We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.
• We write more, but learn less.
• We accomplish less.
• We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.
• We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
• These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.
• These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.
• These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.
• It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.
• A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

• Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
• Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
• Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.
• Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
• Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
• Give time to love, give time to speak and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. ~Jeff Dixon

Now it's time to step back to gain perspective on what is truly important & make the the decision to peruse your desires.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Time Well Spent? You Decide

Time is the the only thing that I can think of that we all start the day with the same amount of. Some people have more talent, money, creativity or energy, but we all are equal when it comes to 24 hours in a day. How we spend those 24 hours is 100% up to us.

How many times to we find ourselves saying "I wish I had the time to _____." The truth is that we do have the time to do whatever that "it" is, is just that we haven't made it a priority or a high enough priority to let something go in order to cleave to the new. There could be a myriad of reasons that you either aren't letting go of something currently or making time for something that you say you want. There is no need to go into that, though I think one of the biggest reasons is fear. I've always thought fear isn't a bad thing at all, it's just a matter of how much control you allow fear to have in your life. Fear is present in battle, before public speaking and many other things. I believe it keeps us grounded, but if it keep s us from reaching for our dreams it has us captive and that it's healthy.

I found the chart below and twice I made my own lines of time spent. The first was what I desire my time to be spent more on and the second I had to step back and see how I really am spending my time. Guess what....the two weren't identical. It did provide for me a visual aid so I can see where I want to be spending my time and therefore reflecting my priorities. It also let me know where I need to let go as well.

As always, All the Best!


A few quotes....

It is not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, 'What are we busy about?'
 ~Henry David Thoreau

Keep in mind that you are always saying 'no' to something. If it isn't to the apparent, urgent things in your life, it is probably to the most fundamental, highly important things. Even when the urgent is good, the good can keep you from your best, keep you from your unique contribution, if you let it.
~Stephen Covey

Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will say either, "I wish I had," or "I'm glad I did."
 ~Zig Ziglar

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

New Things in 2012

So I have seen this new year (which I can't believe is already half over) as an amazing revamp for me personally and professionally.

Personally I believe I have become more self aware, expanded my vision & am happy with the reflection in the mirror every morning.

Professionally I was secure enough to walk away from a job that was secure in order to achieve what I wanted. (We should all enjoy what we do as we spend a lot of time doing it) We are never 'stuck' in a situation, it's just that at times the only way out is a big risk or my be uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, I loved all of my co-workers and consider them family and the industry was and still is great, the company was poorly executing therefore I couldn't deliver the service levels that I felt my customers deserved.

After taking three months off recharging, doing volunteer work, spending more time with my family all the while growing a sweet beard I was ready to get back into the industry that I loved. It's an incredible feeling to know that I play a part in helping families move into houses to make their homes. They celebrate holidays, birthdays, play games, grow up and so much more all in those four walls.

I decided to challenge myself in a few little ways in 2012. The first being no more paper planners. I have made the switch to my iPhone and it's great! Way more convenient. I also said that I would either use LinkedIn or quit it, operate a business Facebook page and now finally begin a blog....we'll see how this one goes.

I believe that this blog will be as random as I am in that one day it could be a winery review and the next sharing a upcoming charity event or a tid bit of hopeful wisdom.

As always....All the BEST!


Here is a beard picture per the request of my friend Debbie :) lil' sis didn't approve of the new style!